Positive Parenting Strategies:
The Law of Reflection
and The Power of Thought You teach your child to think about himself the way that you think about him. Children don't need us to worry about them; they need us to believe in them. Many mistakenly presume that the child's display of behavior and character determines how we must think of him or her. But one of the best kept secrets when it comes to bringing out the best in even the most challenging children is mastering the creative power of your thought for positively influencing child behavior and development.
Improving child discipline always begins with improving parent self-discipline, based on the powerful natural law of child development, which we can call The Law of Reflection. That law states that children develop behaviors and attitudes like those they spend time with.  As you demonstrate love and wisdom through your own reactions, you automatically instill in your children responsible self-control.
The level of reaction that is perhaps most commonly overlooked and underestimated is own thinking. How you think about our child is one way of reacting to your child's behavior, and it has a powerful influence upon the behavior your child displays.
How we think of a child functions as a self-fulfilling prophecy. As you discipline yourself to consciously observe how you think of your child, and then let go of those thoughts that portray your child in disturbing ways, you help your child to fulfill her glorious potential.
Pay close attention to your experiences with your child to learn from them. You will notice when you do this that the angrier you feel when you attempt to control your child's behavior, the more powerless, confused and frustrated you feel. This is because: •Your angry state is working against you by making it impossible to think of any ideas but those that keep you feeling angry. •The measure of anger you feel expresses aggression, which triggers an equal measure of defensiveness in your child'. •Angry reactions, at their root, stem from an unconscious mental vision of yourself as a victim, and of your child as being beyond your control, which functions as a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You can apply the Law of Reflection to help you to redirect just about any behavior your child exhibits. Let's say that your child demonstrates a lack of focus and tends to veer off track while engaged in tasks. Instead of lashing out at the child, criticizing her for being "a dreamer", determine to demonstrate a higher level of responsible focus in your own life. See how your own thoughts, speech and actions tend to drift off course. If you take on the arrogant attitude that you are perfectly focused, you overlook your own weaknesses in this area, and model a stubborn refusal to change for your child. Use the Law of Reflection to support your child's healthy attitudes. If your child seems to display low self-esteem, take that as a sign that you need to re-examine how you really think about yourself. Trying to improve a child's feelings about herself while you treat yourself disrespectfully proves absolutely futile. Recognize ways that you mistreat yourself, including living in an overly stressful pace, not exercising, overeating, and work on gradually improving. Click Here to See Bob Lancer's  Break-Through
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