Avoid Pressured Parenting

For A Healthy, Happy Child-Parent Connection  

Whenever you rush, if you are not very mindful of your feelings, you slip into anxiety.

Anxiety expresses powerlessness, helplessness, and desperation, which the child picks up on, causing him to feel insecure and overloaded with responsibility.

This drives the child into what appears to be rebellious, defiant, overly aggressive, unfocused activity (or inactivity).

At the same time, your anxious, pressured mode imposes a break in your compassionate connection with the child, making you overly controlling and domineering as you lose touch with the child's true heart, positive intentions and basic feelings.  

If this is prolonged, a growing divide separates parent and child, deteriorating the relationship into one of increasing adversity, conflict, and unhappy power-struggle.

You can avoid this, or begin turning it around, by recognizing first that the feeling of psychological pressure that accompanies anxiety, anger and overwhelm diminish your effectiveness and block your compassion. 

Trust that you can meet the demands of parenting (including single parenting), and all of your other demands of life and work, with decreasing pressure, stress and strain.